In short, you shouldnt think of herpes as a big deal because it isnt. Treated and managed with the right care and attitude, genital herpes shouldnt limit your ability to date, meet new people or enjoy a relatively normal sex life.

Is herpes a big deal in a relationship?

Millions of people have herpes, and plenty of them are in relationships. For most couples, herpes isnt a huge deal. Try to go into the conversation with a calm, positive attitude. Having herpes is simply a health issue — it doesnt say anything about you as a person.

Is herpes less contagious over time?

Someone who has had the virus for a long time is less contagious than someone who has just been infected. In general, women have a higher risk of becoming infected than men. Having other sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV also increases the risk of transmission.