Breakups are hard, but even though it can feel like reaching back out to your ex will fix things, Brenner advises waiting a while before doing so — at least a couple of months.

How long should you wait before getting an ex?

The way I see it I think every person who goes through a breakup should always aim to start with the 30 day no contact rule. This is the standard time period that most people recommend. Often when you are starting a no contact rule you have no idea how effective it will be on your ex.

Should you be completely over your ex before dating?

First things first — while some may believe its important to fully get over an ex before dating, dating expert and Dating.com vice president Maria Sullivan says theres no reason why you need to put your love life on hold just because youre still healing.

Can I tell my ex that I miss him?

In fact, you shouldnt even start by telling your ex you miss them. If you come on so strong, youll scare them away. Instead, start out the conversation on a less-serious note. Ask how theyve been, or remind them of some good times the two of you spent together.