If you and your bachelor have very different views on relationships and what the future holds, its best to know sooner rather than later. At an appropriate time, when youre both fairly relaxed and things are going well, ask him where he sees himself in five or 10 years.

What is the male version of spinster?

The closest equivalent term for males is bachelor or confirmed bachelor, but this generally does not carry the same pejorative connotations in reference to age and perceived desirability in marriage.