Hes keeping you keen by being mean! The more the guy acts cold, the more you want him to be hot with you again. That means that youre essentially waiting for him to want you, and for him to make a move on you. As such, youre giving him a lot of power and the ball is definitely in his court.

Why are some guys hot and cold?

Guys who blow hot and cold are playing a game and they want to get their way all the time. That means trying to make you feel special when they want sex or attention— or dissing you when theyre not interested. Theres no stability, only selfishness.