What do you usually look for in a relationship?

Kindness, loyalty, and understanding (not looks, status, and excitement). When people are asked to list the most important qualities in a potential partner, kindness, physical attractiveness, an exciting personality, and income/earning potential tend to top the list.

What should I look for in a healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people. There is no imbalance of power. Partners respect each others independence, can make their own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation, and share decisions.