“Four to five days of chatting before you initiate the date is often the sweet spot. It gives you enough time to build that foundation of trust, but its not so long that the momentum drops off.”

How many messages before you ask for a date?

Happy to match with you Sophie, how was your day?” You should exchange 12 respectable messages. If youve put thought into your six messages, and shes put thought into her six messages, and you feel you might still have things to talk about, then say: “Id love to continue this in person over drinks.